Tenderness is thought to be reserved for intimate moments; a time where you literally disrobe from your protective character.
Tenderness is also the way you approach a health crisis for that disrobing reveals your powerful inner resources which are needed in healing. How do we become tender to our needs?
The protective character in all of us is the personality that adapts to gain success in your everyday reality. This is the “you” that is concerned about what others think about you.
Healing requires a deeper you and when you become tender you can disrobe from that character. That part of you was created to succeed in your social world. Now your priority is to heal and you are forced to connect to a deeper “you”.
Tenderness is the expression of the heart without self concern-but totally available to serve. Relate to yourself with tenderness and discover how you serve what needs to heal.
If all you do is relate to your ego tenderness is not an easy expression. Disrobe from egotistical characters within you and your deepest wisdom treats the ill as a sacred creation. You are literally relating to the part of you that is ill from the selfless perspective of inner wisdom.
At that depth your wisdom becomes a channel for a higher expression to flow through you and you literally promote healing with your tenderness.
You may find relating to yourself from a depth that is uncomfortable in your social world, but realize healing demands more from you than your every day life. Allow the demands of healing to change your character and you will discover more kindness in your life.
Simple kindness can evolve you to deal with challenges from a different level. Share with me what you think about this approach.
Marc Lerner learned the benefits of kindness from dealing with a chronic illness for over 26 years. He promotes transforming your life when you have a chronic illness or disabilities. Go to http://lifeskillsapproach for free E-books on developing kindness.
(c) Marc Lerner 2007
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