The Life Skills Approach

The Easy Way to Forgive Someone that hurt you

If a person abuses you on any level it is easy to resent the thoughts of that person.  Too often we decide that if we forgive that person, we have to come to an understanding that is easy to live with. Until we resolve that issue, those thoughts block you from your deepest inner wisdom. Now they didn’t do anything; it was your thoughts of them that blocked you.

If you focus beyond the thinking mind; you change. At that depth you connect to what I call the Wisdom of your Body. If you view the thoughts of that person from that depth there is a deep love and compassion. From that depth forgiveness naturally happens. If you were able to transcend to that depth directly by choice; forgiveness would be a natural thing to do. If all you do is focus on thoughts and memories you need a reason to forgive someone. Here is my main point; who benefits from your forgiveness the most? If your thoughts of that person blocks you from connecting to the best part of you, then basically forgiveness allows you to go beyond your thoughts and find love and compassion. When you forgive it is to your benefit because of the quality experience you have.

You may find reasons not to forgive and if you focus on reasons; you live on a superficial level. Beyond reasons you find the depth where quality emerges and life unfolds connected to a higher consciousness. So really who benefits from forgiveness; you or the person you forgive? Superficial thinking blocks you from healing and consciously coping with your struggles. Go to http://lifeskillsinc.com, enroll in a Tele-seminar that teaches the life skills of inner depth. You need the Wisdom of the Body for any challenge. © Marc Lerner

Focusing on what is Wrong and how to change our Focus

When we fall it is totally natural to grab our scraped knee; but why do we focus on what is wrong with us the rest of the time? There is a benefit on focusing on what is wrong, for that gives in-put to the brain for corrections to happen. I have had MS actively for 27 years so there comes a time where it becomes useless to keep telling the brain to correct; I just need to live a quality life!

                The purpose of becoming conscious in a healing crisis is to create an inner healing environment. When that is developed the quality of your life is not limited by what is wrong with you; you go beyond focusing on thinking and connect to the Wisdom of the Body. That is an amazing resource that seldom gets developed unless we are forced to and a health crisis can force that quality growth.

                Too often when we face a health crisis we are permitted to focus on thinking out of pity, but we loose a great opportunity to grow. In times like that the body naturally transcends the habitual habit of focusing on thoughts and connects to the Wisdom of the Body. If we could take advantage of that; we could play an active role in healing as we found quality in our life. .

                There is nothing in life more valuable as finding quality in the moment. In a health crisis or any other situation, we have to be true to ourselves and totally be conscious in the moment. That is how I define quality and change my focus.

I work with people in a chronic illness or disability, helping them to find quality and by doing so they actively get involved in healing. Go to http://lifeskillsinc.com to enroll in a Tele-seminar that connects you to the Wisdom of your Body. Regardless of your struggle; being true to yourself empowers you.

© Marc Lerner 2008

Who Survives a Struggle with Quality

It is not the strongest of the species that survive,
nor the most intelligent, but the one most responsive to change.
--Charles Darwin--

 

After years of personal and spiritual study, I was stricken with Multiple Sclerosis at the age of 29. Rather than become an "invalid" or "victim", I immediately began to utilize my own realizations in the formulation of a unique and practical road to healing and well being called the Life Skills Approach.

The Life Skills techniques focus on developing the person's own resources. In today's world, we rely on experts to advise us when ever we face a struggle, but if each of us can develop our own powerful inner resources, our dependence on external authorities can be reduced.  For instance, these inner resources doesn’t eliminate our needs for doctors, it just enables us to actively participate with the doctor from our inner wisdom.  This partnership eliminates the sabotaging ego and activates our inner resources to best follow the doctor’s treatment.  Illness may demand this quality, but doesn’t simply living have that same demand?

Today I write e-books and conduct Tele-seminars to help people in a health crisis become partners with their doctor. From my personal experience I feel “When inner and outer resources work as partners; healing and coping with chronic illnesses becomes easy to do.” These seminars examine the experience of growth and change from several points of view, but always from a perspective deeper than intellectual understanding. The Life Skills techniques take each reader into an experiential realm, so they learn from their own wisdom how to better deal with the challenge they face.

 

Learn how to best adapt to your challenge simply by utilizing powerful inner resources. Victims only look outside to solve problems, but empowered people utile inner resources to deal with challenges. Go to http://lifeskillsinc.com to enroll in a Tele-seminar & get an e-book that empowers you.

 

© Marc Lerner