The Life Skills Approach

Here is an example of when focusing on thinking creates a problem. I was talking to a person who just lost his wife days ago. Of course, he was mourning, which is a natural reaction to such a tragedy. Unfortunately, the habit of focusing on thinking naturally created the urge to look outside for his wife, who is no longer alive. I told him that, in his heart is a living connection to his wife and that is where he loved her. The habit of looking outside of himself for her, which comes from focusing on thoughts that trigger conditioned habits, made his mourning intense in a negative way. I shared with him that when I lost my Dad, I still felt connected to him, but I had to look in my heart for that connection.
When we lose someone we love, the hardest part of mourning comes from the habits in our mind that bring us back to the way we used to live. Now, just think of that; if the most difficult of mourning comes from old habits, why can’t you change how you relate to that person? If someone you loved changed their phone number, you would connect to them in a new way. Mourning is something that is a natural reaction to a loved one passing, but the frustration of old habits is something that you can control. In your heart, there is still a loving connection to people who die; you just have to change how you connect to that person. You can’t look at your thoughts to feel complete. Mourning is a function of the heart and when you focus your heartfelt connection to that person, your mourning is naturally expressed. That could be done without the disappointment that happens when you trigger old habits.
Consciously creating new habits is a way of coping with change. You may not be able to control the situation the change created, but you can control the way you respond to it. Mourning is a complex reality everyone goes through when they lose someone they love. I encourage you not to complicate that process with unnecessary old habits. Finding a connection to a loved one who has died can actually be a comforting attraction, instead of focusing on old habits and old ways of thinking.
Through Life Skills Institute, Marc Lerner works with people dealing with challenges they cannot control. Go to http://lifeskillsinc.com to view his work. He has written A Healthy Way to be Sick to help the chronically ill and disabled cope with their situation. Go to http://ahealthywaytobesick.org to read a mini-version and purchase the e-book.
© 2010 Marc Lerner and Life Skills

Where Are You Coming From: Your Conditioned Thoughts or Inner Wisdom

When I was young and I said something stupid, I was often asked “where are you coming from?” Usually I was coming from a shallow place where I was just focused on thinking. Now that question has a deeper significance, for when I deal with a chronic illness, where I am coming from determines the quality of my life. The events in my life are not as significant as how I interpret them, for that is where I am coming from.

The simple act of breathing or focusing can change my interpretations significantly. If I focus on my thoughts, every input I perceive gets filed into the appropriate folder in my mind. Just inputing my life into the existing folders I created in the past, triggers past experiences and associations in my mind. My body reacts to my mind instead of simply perceiving what I focus on.

The beauty of being in the moment demands my perceptions connect to the Wisdom of my Body instead of my old folders. True love and spiritual experiences are in the moment and demand a pure consciousness. Unfortunately, most people are captive to the habits in their old folders and miss these simple beauties in life.

We attach ourselves to the symbols in our mind as though they were a shield that protects us from the moment. Though symbols can create a sense of security, seldom do they connect to our deeper wisdom. Being in the moment is not an intellectual function; it requires more than thinking and needs the Wisdom of the Body.

When we face a crisis or extreme pleasure, the moment is the platform we need to stand on or our experience is diluted by our past. In most situations, that is a good thing because we learned lessons in the past and better adapt to our world. In certain situations, like personal health care or dealing with a challenge we were never taught how to handle, the Wisdom of the Body is an amazing tool. Sometimes it is essential; when we dilute the moment with our past, we are unable to deal with challenges consciously.

The Wisdom of the Body expresses a self-image that is free from your unfinished business so you can enter the moment. Life skills like self-trust and confidence naturally emerge from our deepest inner wisdom, but for some reason we sometimes find more comfort in past conditioning. It takes courage to let go of the shields you hold onto and enter the moment. When you trust the self-image connected to that confidence and courage, you do not really need shields to enter the unknown

We are all responsible for how we live in the moment. It is totally possible to create conscious habits to improve any old conditioning, but it requires you to let go of your thoughts and aspire a greater reality than yourself.

In whatever you do, the you in the moment connected to inner wisdom is always better than the conditioned you. Join a Tele-seminar that teaches you how to create conscious habits that transport your focus beyond thinking. Go to http://lifeskillsinc.com to enroll in a Tele-seminar you can participate in from home. The best you can do for yourself is to consciously experience beyond your thinking mind. Unfortunately, we have been conditioned to focus on thinking. The Wisdom of your Body deals with your goals connected to powerful inner resources.

Copyright 2010 Marc Lerner and Life Skills

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Consciously Reconditioning Your Subconscious for Love, Work and Quality of Life

The subconscious mind plays such a significant part in our life, it determines how we interact with the world. Imagine if you could look through the eyes of the most conscious you and deal with your greatest challenge. Unfortunately, we tend to see the world through the eyes we have been conditioned to see through. That means all of the limitations, the fears and guilt we learned, influence the way we see the world. Most people do not think they have a choice of how their sub-conscious mind works; we just accept it as that is who I am.

As we breathe in, we give life to where our breath lands. We breathe into our thoughts and give life to both our fears and dreams. We breathed into how we were related to, for that was the only identity we were taught and we gave it life. Over time, that became the identity we accepted. Beyond our conscious thoughts and our subconscious conditioning is a “you” not created by your mind.

If all we give life to is the identity created by our mind, how can we explore the Unknown?

Let us look at the beauty of the Unknown:

• Beyond our thoughts is the Wisdom of the Body, the home of powerful inner resources.
• We best aspire to spiritual challenges from this wisdom. We heal better and perform at a higher standard in whatever we do.
• Time is really a creation of our mind, for the past and future exist as thoughts in the moment. Wisdom lives and thrives in that moment.

• The quality of life, the quality of our love and the quality of simply being is the most pure when it is wisdom’s expression.

When we are victims to our past conditioning, we accept it as though that is just the way my life is. It is not until we get challenged
, like facing the threat of death ,that we even tend to venture beyond the conditioned mind. We often say when that happens, we were scared to death. Going beyond the “you” you identify with is entering the Unknown, which is a death threat to our conditioned ego.

Just think, If you could develop conscious habits so you accepted your inner wisdom instead of being a victim to past conditioning. Your self image would seem to dance with the Wisdom of the Body every time you express yourself. You would trust the Wisdom of the Body more than you trust the creations of your mind and all limitations which your mind created would never touch you.

It requires surrender to exist in that state of mind, so when you let go of the mind’s creation, wisdom keeps you alive. When you let go, wisdom breathes you. A stress-free breath floats through you and you become super-conscious of the moment you are living in.

You have the power to live in that conscious moment and consciously reconditioning your mind is essential to make that happen.

Learn how to create conscious habits on a subconscious level. Go to http://lifeskillsinc.com to enroll in a Tele-seminar you can do from your home. There is an e-book with over 25 techniques that create conscious habits that change you self-image, self-trust and how to control negative thinking as simple as breathing. Before you try to master any goal, consciously re-condition your subconscious mind to be harmonious with inner wisdom.

© 2010 Marc Lerner and Life Skills

A conscious out-breath is truly the expression of inner wisdom. Once you breathe into silence and activate the Wisdom of the Body, your out-breath carries the quality of that wisdom to what you do. This expression is not limited by your mind and past conditioning.

You naturally express self-image that is connected to your inner wisdom. You naturally express a self-trust and confidence as wisdom’s expression. Wisdom’s expression has been compromised in most past conditioning. We often have to go back and consciously recondition our mind and create habits that affect our sub-conscious mind so this expression manifests.

Wisdom’s expression needs to be a sub-conscious habit. When you learn how to create these habits, those consciously-created life skills become a part of your character. In the same way, when you look through blue sunglasses, everything looks blue. When you express yourself through a conscious self-image with self-trust, your entire life manifests that quality. Developing these life skills is an essential part of healing. If you did not develop in the past, it is never too late. The doors to your sub-conscious are open before you go to sleep at night and when you first wake up in the morning. You can plant seeds that develop conscious habits during those times.

You are never a victim to your past conditioning; you can consciously condition your sub-conscious to be harmonious with the Wisdom of your Body.

Marc Lerner wrote the book, A Healthy Way to be Sick, and gives tele-seminars to develop conscious habits. Go to http://lifeskillsinc.com to learn about his work. Go to http://ahealthywaytobesick.org to preview his book.

© Marc Lerner and Life Skills 2010

A conscious in-breath is what you give life to. We automatically breathe life into what we think, our habits and our past conditioning. Too often, the thoughts and conditioning we give life to cut our breath short. In Latin, “worry” comes from “choke,” for when we breathe into thoughts that cut our breath short, we often worry about them.

Wouldn’t it be amazing to create conscious habits, so that we breathe into the silence beyond our thoughts? By doing so, we would activate the Wisdom of our Body. It takes confidence to breathe into silence, for there is nothing there to lean on. When we give our life to silence, we are literally activating inner resources that are essential to accomplish goals. We need to do that as we work with doctors because, when we activate our inner wisdom, we actively participate in healing from our deepest wisdom. Becoming an active partner utilizing this inner wisdom makes the treatments more effective and removes mental sabotage.

Breathing into our past conditioning gives life to the way we were conditioned. If your conditioning gave you a reaction to authority, it would be natural to resist. If your conditioning gave you fear of the unknown, you would remain on the level of thoughts. By focusing there, you would not activate the Wisdom of your Body and would not work with your doctor utilizing your inner resources. Modern medicine is truly a miracle. The human body with inner wisdom makes you more receptive to that miracle without the limitations of your mind.

A conscious in-breath is the first step a patient needs to become an active partner with his/her doctor. Go to http://lifeskillsinc.com to download A Healthy Way to be Sick.

© Marc Lerner and Life Skills 2010

I want to propose a series of Blogs that study our breath. We may all have had incredible thoughts that changed our lives, or creative flashes that deeply inspired us…but within every breath is the power that keeps us alive. This is not limited to religion or any specific way of understanding reality; it is a simple yet profound experience that is always available.

I define surrender by what we breathe into. We give life to what we breathe into and in essence, we surrender to it. We breathe into our thoughts, our memories and fantasies and we breathe into our fears and self-doubts. What if we developed habits that breathed into the Wisdom of the Body and then accepted powerful inner resources we don’t claim as a part of our character?

I work with people in a health challenge. It is essential for them to breathe into the Wisdom of their Body and activate that to be active in healing. Unfortunately, many patients breathe into their thoughts and activate fears, worries and self-doubts.

In the next few Blogs, I will develop the in-breath that activates the Wisdom of the Body in the silence beyond our thoughts. A conscious in-breath is the best way a patient can become an active partner with his/her doctors. Then, on the out-breath you manifest what you breathed into. A conscious out-breath is the expression of inner wisdom. It has positive life skills like self-esteem, trust and focus.

When the conscious in-breath and out-breath combine, you are a whole person with a quality life. This minor adjustment has tremendous effects in our life, but we too often ignore that because we are so focused on the creations of our mind.

Learn how to develop the habits that create a conscious breath. Go to http://lifeskillsinc.com to explore the work I am doing. My book, “A Healthy Way to Be Sick,” develops a conscious in-breath and out-breath. Join a Tele-seminar that guides your through a process that consciously conditions your sub-conscious mind.

© Marc Lerner and Life Skills 2010